Satir: Congruent action

"Our challenge now is to develop human beings with values: moral, ethical, and humanistic. For me, this means learning how to be congruent, and that leads to becoming more fully human. When we achieve that, we will be able to enjoy this most wonderful planet and the life that inhabits it." - Virginia Satir

satir congruence circle: self, other and context form equal parts of a circle, or three sides of a triangle

Effective communication is an act of balancing self, other and context, trying to be congruent with all three.

In situations of stress, anxiety, or fear, people tend to fall back to a number of ineffective communication stances, where one or more of the self, other, context is missing: blaming, placating, superreasonable, irrelevant, loving/hating.