The freedom to see and hear what is here, instead of
what should be, was, or will be.
The freedom to say what you feel and think, instead of
what you should.
The freedom to feel what you feel, instead of
what you ought.
The freedom to ask for what you want, instead of
always waiting for permission.
The freedom to take risks in your own behalf, instead of
choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat.
-- Virginia Satir
And when you know how to dance these ... are you also prepared for ...
... encountering insecurities and resistance when rocking the boat on your own behalf? Dancing the five freedoms can frighten others!
... a "no" when you ask for what you want because someone else may not want to give it for whatever reason? People have a freedom to say no without having to explain themselves to us. A persons reason for saying "no" likely has nothing to do with us anyway. By all means let's avoid after we get a "no"! Oh, and if we can't take the heat, perhaps we better not play with fire.
... meeting your ancestors, rock giants, old friends, and many more such mindboggling and mysterious adventures when you feel what you feel? Our needs, translated to taking responsibility for earning enough monies to eat and pay our bills at the end of the month, may require us to compromise somewhat?
... a drama or war when you speak up about your feelings or when your journey clashes with someone elses? Other people have feelings and freedoms too. Perhaps it is in the way we express it? Do we use "must" a lot? And "you should"? "Yes, but ..."? "Or ..."? Where is our body and in what stance or motion? Where is theirs? Are we truly expressing congruently how we feel, or are we blaming others in (hidden) ways? Perhaps we didn't listen well enough to understand meanings made by others before we voiced our own meanings made? Perhaps we can ask for what seems to be missing information?
... for information overload and experiencing chaos when reperceiving and stepping into the now, the great unknown ... Dancing these freedoms for our self and others with integrity takes quite a balancing act ... and whatever learning it seems to bring ... definitely not boring!
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Eyes that see the feelings of the universe